The Power of Equity in Relationship Buidling

India White • November 10, 2021

The Power of Equity in Relationship Building in the Classroom- Dr. India White

The Power of Equity in Relationship Building: Dr. India White


Within a k-12 classroom setting, there are various ethnicities of students along with different background experiences that affect students’ perceptions of their teachers. For instance, some students have great relationships with all of their teachers and are known as teacher’s pets. They will do anything for their teacher and will strive to outperform their peers. Their trust level is strong, and they know that their teacher believes in them. Further, sometimes these students share similar experiences within life with their teacher and their families. These relationships are ideal because this is what creates the beauty of academic success for students. Teachers love students like these because it validates that they are a wonderful teacher, doing a great job in instructional delivery.


 However, there are other students who do not share this wonderful experience with teachers. Some students do not like teachers. They don’t trust teachers because of their experiences. Since elementary school, some students have been traumatized by their teachers who have acted more like sergeants than caring adults. Some teachers have used rules and procedures to cause students to suffer academically via in school suspension and lowering their conduct grade on the report card.


  Due to the focus of following the rules, students’ academic performance struggles. With in school suspension, even in elementary school, learners fall behind their peers drastically. Studies show that if a student is suspended from school one time, their chances of graduating on time with their peers dwindles to about 67%. Dr. Elizabeth Jones in her article “The Link Between Suspensions, Expulsions, and Dropout Rates” (2018) mentioned how “That same study found that suspension increased the chance of leaving school prior to graduation from 16 percent to a 32 percent. Another study found that students who were excluded were 29 percent more likely to drop out at some point during their high school career.” This is the subtle and silent affect that harshness, fear, and forcing the rules has on students is truly damaging the trust of learners and their ability to perform in the classroom.


 NCTM speaks how equity-based math needs more for students of color to succeed, stating that “Equity-based mathematics teaching requires more than implementing new curriculum or using specific practices because it involves taking a stand for what is right. It requires mathematics teachers to reflect on their own identity, positions, and beliefs in regards to racist and sorting-based mechanisms.” In order to change this fact, there must be a willingness to act upon it and never go back to this way of work.


 The sad reality is that students of color are mostly impacted by this way of work. Studies show that students of color are performing behind their white peers as much as six months in reading and math. However, how can we continue to bridge this achievement gap so that learners stop falling through the cracks.


 Here are some methods for teachers to enhance performance levels of their students:

 1.    Be OPEN to introspection

a.     Sometimes, teachers have to reflect at how they are teaching and find out why particular students are not performing well. It is no longer to say, “Jarrod just doesn’t seem to get it no matter what I try”. Teachers must be willing to get quiet within and reflect on their relationships with students as well as what methods have worked well.

 

 Also, teachers must choose to be open in discovering whether or not there are unknown biases that have affected their instructional practices. Is there a fear of the unknown? Are teachers uncomfortable with a particular race or gender of students? Do teachers have a strategy to work through any fears or biases?

 

2.    Take Time to Work Through Biases, Mindsets and Fears

       Studies have found that “educators, like the general public, hold “slight” pro-white/anti-Black implicit bias and that this bias is more strongly related to individual factors than contextual factors.”  This reality shows that many teachers may have mindsets about overall expectations of academic performance that they hold on to tenaciously that impact their ability to trust their students of color.  Teachers might be used to cultural norms and boundaries that their students of color are not used to. For instance, maybe in their home there are a set of rules and expectations that were followed to demonstrate proper etiquette and societal norms that are respectable. These could be seen as honorable, and now as teachers these norms are upheld.  

 

However, what if students were not raised to have these particular norms? What if their culture allowed for other norms? Teachers must be willing to be flexible on the expectations you have and learn from their culture and adapt so that they can be successful in their class.

 

3.    Take Time to be Intentional about Changing Inequitable/Ineffective Practices

      Sometimes, teachers commit to change, but they just can’t seem to break their old habits. It’s hard to change. Once comfort is established, teachers want to maintain and continue in the same vein they always have. However, what if these “old tricks” are damaging learners? Are teachers willing to change? Sometimes it is beneficial to evaluate how things have always been done and then figure out how to strategize to change practices that waste time, or cause students to struggle.

 

For instance, having a rule to come prepared and then discipline a student because they did not have a pencil might be a practice that need to be discontinued. Instead of making it a discipline issue, create a “pencil parking lot” where students can check out a pencil and return it at the end of class, no pressure, no discipline needed.

 

Or, if there is an issue with students lining up in order, choose to be flexible and change the order for various reasons: staying on task, turned in homework on time, performed well on an assessment, etc. These practices will help eliminate any rigidness that might exist in the classroom procedures and expectations throughout the day.

 

4.    Embrace the Practice of Mercy

 

       Sometimes, teachers just need to feel like they are validated and have authority. It can become a power struggle when trying to establish power and proper conduct in the classroom. All teachers fear being that teacher with no classroom management. Hence, there are several reminders, which turn into warnings that spiral into a system of discipline and control.

 

Although teachers might be right in their argument of how Jarrod just won’t sit down, have they considered that Jarrod might learn best as a bodily-kinesthetic learner and needs a little accommodating so he can perform at his best. Where is the mercy? Teachers first objective should not just be to teach; it should be to help students succeed. Some teachers are more in love with the content than they are with the idea of developing the whole child and causing success for all learners, especially students of color. This must change, and change can start today.

 

 

5.    Eliminate the Pressure

       Sometimes, because a teacher has been so successful at establishing norms and boundaries, it can cause a buildup of pressure to “do well on learners.” Sometimes, this pressure can cause negative impacts on the learner as a whole child. These learners can become anxious, discouraged, and then shut down. This then creates disciplinary actions, and school begins to feel more like a prison than a learning environment. How can this change?

 

 Well, teachers must first be willing to relax their standards for the best interest of learners. Do teachers have to write a referral because Jarrod did not line up in time at the door? Do teachers have to call administration because Jarrod did not come off the playground on time? Or, is it really worth in school suspension or arresting students in school because they won’t get off of their cell phone in their class? The pressures have built up and now communication has been damaged. Trust slowly leaks out of the classroom.

 

 To truly experience change, teachers must be willing to RELAX on some of these legalities. As a teacher, the first goal is to be a caring expert that teaches knowledge. Teachers were not called to be cops; they were called to assist learners in their academic success.  To remember this, teachers must embrace the idea of mercy and releasing build up pressures that would set students up for failure.

 

Conclusion

In order effectively establish relationships with students, teachers must take a moment to reflect and be honest during introspection. Further, they must take the time to work through biases and fears. Once they’ve figured this out, they must proceed to be intentional about changing any inequitable practices that have damaged their relationships with their peers. Then, through the practice of mercy and eliminating unnecessary pressures in the classroom, they can begin to establish trust with their learners and see hope at the end of the tunnel. I wish you the best in your endeavors as a transformational educator. You can do this!

 

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By India White February 9, 2026
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Grit Meets AI: Reflections from the Florida Distance Learning Association Conference This past week, I had the absolute pleasure of presenting at the Florida Distance Learning Association Conference, and I’m still energized by the conversations, questions, and passion I witnessed from professors and K–12 educators across the state and beyond. My session focused on G.R.I.T. and Artificial Intelligence in the math space (Grades K–12); and more importantly, how we can responsibly and intentionally use AI to strengthen learning rather than replace good teaching. G.R.I.T. + AI = Powerful Instruction During the session, I shared how my G.R.I.T. framework, Growth Mindset, Resilience, Self-Efficacy, and Time Management, can serve as a guardrail for AI integration in mathematics. AI is not here to do the thinking for* students; it’s here to help students think better. We explored how AI can: * Support productive struggle rather than shortcut it * Differentiate instruction while maintaining high cognitive demand * Build student confidence through feedback and reflection * Help teachers reclaim time without sacrificing rigor From elementary number sense to secondary algebra and beyond, AI—when paired with grit—becomes a powerful ally in equity-centered math instruction. A Call to Professors and Teachers Whether you teach future educators at the university level or students in a K–12 classroom, my encouragement is this: don’t fear AI—frame it. When grounded in pedagogy, purpose, and perseverance, AI can help us close gaps instead of widening them. If you’re preparing teachers, now is the time to model what ethical, effective, and gritty AI use** looks like in practice. Let’s Stay Connected If this message resonates with you, I invite you to continue the work with me: * ๐Ÿ“˜ Explore my books and G.R.I.T. resources designed for educators and leaders * ๐ŸŽค Book me to speak or lead professional learning for your school, district, or conference * ๐ŸŒ Visit my website for tools, courses, and upcoming events Together, we can ensure that innovation never outpaces intention—and that grit remains at the heart of learning in every classroom, whether in person or online. Let’s get gritty. Let’s get intentional. And let’s lead the future of math education—wisely and boldly. ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ“Š๐Ÿค–
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By India White January 28, 2026
I am incredibly grateful for the opportunity to speak at UCTM 2026. The energy in the rooms was powerful, and several sessions were filled with educators eager to grow, reflect, and strengthen their practice—especially during my session on building gritty thinking in the classroom. Experiences like this remind me why this work matters so deeply. Teachers came ready to engage in meaningful conversations about productive struggle, perseverance, and how to move beyond surface-level engagement into true student thinking. One of the highlights was hearing how excited educators were about the new Savvas math books and the way these resources support conceptual understanding, collaboration, and confidence for learners at all levels. When curriculum, instruction, and mindset align, we truly begin to bridge the gap for students. At the heart of these conversations was the powerful connection between Thinking Classrooms and my G.R.I.T. Framework—Growth Mindset, Resilience, Self-Efficacy, and Time Management. Together, they create learning environments where students don’t just solve problems, they learn how to persist, reflect, and believe in themselves. Building grit starts with a growth mindset. In a thinking classroom, struggle is not a setback—it’s evidence of learning. Teachers can normalize this by celebrating multiple strategies, modeling mistakes, and using language that reframes being “stuck” as part of the thinking process. When students understand that effort and revision are expected, they engage more deeply and take greater ownership of their learning. Resilience grows through collaboration. Thinking classrooms thrive when students work together, share ideas, and wrestle with concepts as a team. Random grouping, structured roles, and intentional math discourse help students learn that perseverance is strengthened in community. When learners support one another, they build confidence and stamina to tackle challenging tasks. Self-efficacy develops when student thinking is valued. Using vertical non-permanent surfaces like whiteboards lowers the fear of making mistakes and encourages risk-taking. Asking students to explain their reasoning and highlighting their ideas—whether complete or still developing—signals that their thinking matters. Over time, students begin to see themselves as capable mathematicians. Time management is another critical component of grit. Teachers can support this by breaking tasks into phases, using visual timers, and guiding students to reflect on how they used their time. These habits help students learn to pace themselves, stay focused, and persist through complex problems—skills that extend far beyond the math classroom. The questions we ask also shape gritty thinking. Instead of rescuing students, we can ask questions that prompt reflection and strategy: What do you already know? What have you tried so far? What could you try next? These questions keep students engaged in the process and strengthen their independence as thinkers. Finally, reflection brings it all together. Ending lessons with opportunities for students to reflect on effort, strategies, and moments of perseverance reinforces that grit is just as important as correctness. When we celebrate persistence as much as achievement, students learn that growth happens over time. UCTM 2026 was a powerful reminder that educators everywhere are committed to creating classrooms where students feel supported, challenged, and empowered. I am grateful for every teacher who showed up ready to learn, collaborate, and push their thinking. Let’s stay gritty, keep learning together, and continue bridging the gap so every learner has the opportunity to thrive.
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It’s Official! The 60-Day Weight Loss & G.R.I.T. Discipline Reset Has Launched ๐ŸŽ‰ I’m excited to officially announce the launch of my newest transformational experience—the 60-Day Weight Loss & G.R.I.T. Discipline Reset! This course has been thoughtfully designed for individuals who are ready to stop starting over and finally build the discipline, consistency, and mindset needed to see lasting results. Led by Dr. India White, this 8-week online course goes beyond traditional weight loss programs. It focuses on sustainable change through my proven G.R.I.T. Framework: Growth Mindset, Resilience, Self-Efficacy, and Time Management. This isn’t about extremes or quick fixes—it’s about building habits that fit real life and last well beyond 60 days. What’s Included Participants receive access to: * An introductory video to reset your mindset and set clear expectations * Eight weekly modules that build discipline step by step * A conclusion video to help you transition from a reset to a lifestyle Each week is intentionally structured to help you strengthen both your body and mind, so progress doesn’t disappear once motivation fades. Why This Course Works So many weight loss programs focus only on what to eat or how to exercise—but they ignore the mental discipline required to stay consistent. This course fills that gap. You’ll learn how to: * Stay resilient during setbacks * Manage your time realistically * Build confidence through small, sustainable wins * Create routines that work even on busy days To deepen the experience, I highly encourage participants to pair the course with the 60-Day Weight Loss G.R.I.T. Workbook, available on Amazon. The workbook provides daily reflections, habit tracking, and accountability tools that align with each week of the course. Who This Course Is For This course is perfect for: * Individuals ready to lose weight with structure and purpose * Busy professionals, educators, leaders, and entrepreneurs * Fitness trainers and wellness professionals * Anyone seeking discipline, clarity, and long-term results Enroll Today If you’ve been waiting for the right time to recommit to your health, this is it. The 60-Day Weight Loss & G.R.I.T. Discipline Reset course is now live and ready for you. ๐Ÿ‘‰ Click the link to purchase and enroll today ๐Ÿ‘‰ Start your 60-day reset ๐Ÿ‘‰ Build discipline that lasts a lifetime Your healthiest, most disciplined self is within reach—and G.R.I.T. is the bridge to get you there.
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From Homelessness to Hope: Moving from Surviving to Thriving at Resilient Beyond Measure Serving as a keynote speaker at the Resilient Beyond Measure Conference was not only fun, it was deeply meaningful. The room was filled with leaders, educators, and purpose-driven individuals who were hungry for more—more clarity, more impact, and more hope. That collective energy reminded me why I continue to show up and share my story. During my keynote, I spoke candidly about my journey—one that did not begin on a stage, in a boardroom, or with titles behind my name. I shared how I once experienced homelessness, uncertainty, and moments where survival was the only goal. There were seasons when simply making it through the day felt like the win. Yet, through grit, faith, discipline, and relentless perseverance, that season did not define my destination. Today, by God’s grace and years of intentional work, I now serve as a math textbook author, educator, national speaker, and entrepreneur, helping impact millions of students, teachers, leaders, and organizations across the nation. My story is living proof that where you start does not dictate where you finish. At the heart of my keynote was a bold challenge: we must stop normalizing survival mode. Survival is reactive. Thriving is intentional. I shared my G.R.I.T. framework, which continues to be the foundation of my work and message: Growth Mindset — shifting from “I can’t” to “I’m learning” Resilience — developing the stamina to rise again and again Self-Efficacy — believing deeply that you are capable and equipped Time Management — aligning time with purpose, not pressure When these four pillars work together, individuals don’t just cope—they transform. One of the metaphors that resonated strongly with the audience was the idea that many of us are living and leading in low-level energy spaces, when we were designed for more. I described this as moving from survival-level “beta rays” toward higher levels of clarity and impact. Beta represents survival mode —stress-driven, reactive, exhausted, and constantly responding to emergencies. Alpha reflects stability and focus —calmer thinking, reflection, and clearer decision-making. Theta symbolizes creativity and deep connection —innovation, vision, and problem-solving begin to flourish. Gamma represents peak performance and transformation —high-level thinking, purpose, alignment, impact, and legacy. Thriving means intentionally moving away from beta-level survival and stepping into gamma-level living and leadership—where our actions are aligned with purpose, vision, and long-term impact. I want to extend my sincere thanks to Jackie Walker for the invitation and opportunity to keynote such a powerful conference. Resilient Beyond Measure created a space where authenticity, healing, and growth were not just encouraged—they were activated. It was truly an honor to serve and connect with such an inspiring community. I was also excited to share my newest book, Stop Surviving, Start Thriving, which expands on the message of the keynote and provides practical tools to help readers move from burnout to breakthrough. The book is accompanied by a new course designed to walk participants step by step through applying the G.R.I.T. framework in real life—not just reading about it, but living it. In addition, leaders are invited to explore the G.R.I.T. Workbook for Leaders, created to support sustainable leadership, confidence, resilience, and intentional growth. If this message resonates with you, I would love to stay connected. Visit my website at www.india-white.com to learn more about my work, speaking engagements, and resources. Both Stop Surviving, Start Thriving and the G.R.I.T. Workbook for Leaders are available today! Whether you are an educator, leader, entrepreneur, or someone simply ready for more, remember this: you were never meant to just survive. With grit, vision, and intention, thriving is not only possible—it’s your calling. With gratitude and grit, Dr. India White
By India White January 14, 2026
EXCITING NEWS!! I am thrilled to share some incredible news with you all! After months of hard work and dedication, I am proud to announce the launch of my new book, "Stop Surviving, Start Thriving: A Grit Framework for Leaders." This book is designed to empower leaders like you with the insights and strategies needed to elevate your leadership journey and truly thrive in today’s challenging environment. What You’ll Discover in My Book In "Stop Surviving, Start Thriving," I delve into the grit framework that will help you harness your strengths, overcome obstacles, and lead with confidence. Whether you’re an established leader or someone just starting your journey, this book is filled with practical advice and actionable steps to make a meaningful impact. Why This Book Matters: - Transformational Insights: Learn how to shift your mindset from merely surviving to genuinely thriving in your role. - Practical Strategies: Gain access to tools and techniques that you can implement right away to enhance your leadership effectiveness. - Inspiration: Discover stories and examples that will motivate you to take your leadership to the next level. Introducing the Stop Surviving, Start Thriving Course! In addition to the book, I am thrilled to announce the launch of the Stop Surviving, Start Thriving Course! This course complements the book perfectly, providing you with an interactive experience to dive deeper into the concepts covered and gain practical tools that you can use in your daily leadership practice. What to Expect from the Course: - Interactive Learning: Engaging modules that challenge you to think critically and apply lessons to your leadership style. - Real-Life Applications: Practical exercises and discussions that make the concepts relatable and actionable. - Community Support: Join a network of like-minded individuals who are also on their journey to thrive! Where to Find the Book and Course You can grab your copy of "Stop Surviving, Start Thriving" on Amazon by following this link: Amazon Link ( https://a.co/d/c8BNlS9 ). ๐Ÿ“– For those eager to join the course, it's available on my website here: Stop Surviving, Start Thriving Course ( https://www.india-white.com/store/Stop-Surviving-Stop-Thriving-Online-Course-p657410057 ). ๐ŸŒ Join Me on This Transformative Journey! I am so excited about this new chapter and can’t wait for you to explore the book and course. Together, let’s stop surviving and start thriving! Your leadership journey begins now. Thank you for your continued support, and I look forward to hearing your thoughts on the book and the course! Let’s thrive together! ๐Ÿ’ฅ