It’s Time to Take Out the Trash: Detoxing from ALL Negativity! – India White

Admin • November 26, 2019

Can you imagine seeing an eagle in the sky with a garbage back tied around its ankle, or an ankle brace as it aims to soar the skies? Well, I know you’re probably thinking, “Poor bird, someone needs to free that bird of the baggage so it can fly!” Guess what: that’s EXACTLY the purpose of my post for you today!

As we end the year, it’s imperative that we begin planning for a phenomenal New Year, and that we link up with people that need us and that we desire to be with. HOWEVER, We must make sure that we are taking the appropriate steps as we prepare:

  1. We Must Choose to Forgive- Holding on to petty grudges of 5 to 10 years ago is doing nothing but burdening your spirit. Forgive people who have betrayed you, tried to ruin your reputation, stole your business ideas, stabbed you in the back, created wedges in healthy relationships and more. We must understand that not everybody is spiritually or mentally healthy. Listen, everyone will fail in some fashion or another. Furthermore, even among those who should be shining examples to the world, there “godly” persons are dealing with much mental illness and emotionally baggage that has caused them to miss the mark in becoming all that God desires for them to be. Hence, you’ll find that sometimes people in general can be confusing advertisement for who they say they are and what they claim to represent. We must choose to forgive them for falling short and also remember that we also have fallen short. 
  2. Cut these folks off!
    1. You will find that as an eagle soars the skies, they will run into peasants, pelicans, buzzards, and other sorts of flock. Remember that birds of a feather flock TOGETHER. Listen, if people come into your life and the VIBE Is OFF: Run for your life! Some of these people are simply pigeons and buzzards trying to take from you, whether its an idea, a business opportunity, a relationship or just to DRAIN your spirit. If you find that AFTER you hang out with a particular person or group and you feel like “all you do is give” and never receive back, it’s time to cut the cords! If they never invest in you or celebrate your success- they are probably envious, jealous or just bitter because they are slacking in their destiny.  Guess what! You don’t have time for this foolishness! CUT THEM OFF!
    2. Burying Your Talent for Them- If you have to constantly  BEG for acceptance and to be considered in a project, or in an opportunity, even service to your community or your church or etc, it’s time to wake up and move on! It is not the will of God that after you’ve presented your talent that you have to deal with controlling and insecure partners who will not allow you to blossom into the great person that God has shown you. You might be asking, “How do I conquer this?” My response: move forward to the audience that is celebrating you! That means you might have to go live on social media, YouTube, or etc. STOP WAITING AROUND FOR PEOPLE TO ENDORSE YOU! It just won’t happen because people are people.
    3. Hurt People Hurt People- You might be hanging around someone because they’ve been hurt and you empathize with them. Guess what: until they are willing to be released from the hurt and move forward, they will find a means to  HURT you. Yes, you! Even if you are their #1 fan. This my friends is what will leave you questioning how you got into particular situations when you saw the RED FLAGS!” However, maybe this post will help you move forward now before you are hurt even more by those who are bleeding inside. This is probably one of the toughest things to do, to let go of someone who is hurting. However, if they want you in their lives, they will return to you for business, relationship or etc when they can see clearly and realize that you were actually good for them. 
    4.  Jealous or Envious – These people are interesting lol. Why interesting? Because some will approach you knowing that they will never support you and that if they could kill you, they would. You must mark these people and learn to play the game until they fade away. If you aren’t sure whether or not someone is jealous or envious, here’s a test: Tell them about a recent promotion, or something you purchased, or etc. See what the response is…if they aren’t celebrating you, they are probably jealous or envious. Another thing to look for: Did they just try to copy your brand? Are they trying to steal your clients and post up  your ideas as their own? If so, watch out! You need to understand that these frenemies are waiting to strike. So, how do you deal with these people who are held hostage by jealous and envy? Pray for them, celebrate them but NEVER tell them your next move. If you choose to keep them around, it will be a burden…it would be best to move forward into the new year WITHOUT them.
    5.  In COMPETITION With You! Ugh…lol. These folks here….I don’t know why some people are so hurt inside that they feel like they always have to be #1 in EVERYTHING.. However, I am no longer naïve and realize that people are like this in today’s world. Hence, when you realize someone is in competition with you, how do you handle it? Answer: Take away the competition and let them win. LOL. Just walk away from their pettiness. Why? If you don’t they will try to raise your blood pressure with all of their new ideas, events, relationships, and etc. You don’t have time for that. Stay focused on what God is doing and be PLEASED with HIM saying well done in your life. If you life as unto the Lord, who cares what everyone else is doing? This will surely put your mind and wasted energies at rest.
    6.  Insecure – An insecure man or woman is not confident in themselves. Hence, they spend thousands of dollars to look like a million bucks (I’m not talking getting dolled up every now in then which is good- this is excessive due to their insecurity and self-hatred). They also tear down EVERYONE and EVERYTHING that “shows them up” in any way or fashion. This could be in business, relationship and kingdom. Therefore, when dealing with an insecure person, help them out by NOT telling them about what God is doing for you and of your latest projects. Just let them see you posted later on in lifeYou can’t trust an insecure person, because unless they get the victory, they will strike against you sooner or later. Sorry to spill these beans, but it’s just true.
    7. Just can’t put my finger on it “Vibe”- Listen, when you gut is telling you something is off, or you have a discernment, you need to trust it and listen to it. I don’t care how many people are praising that person or that company- if your spirit is telling you that they aren’t for you, then they aren’t for you. Move forward without them. 
    8. Enemies- Sometimes we have enemies/haters around just because its good businessHowever, where God is taking some of us, it’s not a good idea to have them around as you’re trying to soar. How can you tell whether you have an enemy or no? Let them show you their TRUE colors- then, believe them and MARK them as an enemy. Believe me, bad blood is bad blood and there’s nothing you can do to change this. This is why the Bible speak of enemies and even says “Thou prepares a TABLE before me in the presence of mine ENEMIES.” Sometimes, we have to come out of the clouds and know that an enemy is an enemy and move on without them.  I don’t care if they are in church with you, in business with you or in the same circle of influence as you- mark them!
    9.  You Can’t Succeed Because I Didn’t- WOW. I know many of you are reading this and can relate. Some people tell you that you’re too young to be that successful, that educated or that happy.  Or, because THEY had to wait 20 years before they started, so do you. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. This TOXIC mindset will have you carrying unnecessary baggage and missing opportunities for YEARS! Ugh to them and keep it moving. How do you handle old mindsets like this? Keep your accomplishments and dreams to yourself; these people will NOT help you move ahead. Don’t be deceived. They are stuck and choose to be and they want you there too. Just move forward and leave them behind.  Crabs will remain in the Crabpot- You don’t have time for that. You have greatness to purse, so release yourself while you have the chance!
  3. Stay Focused- You are getting ready to press into a NEW year where the Sky is the limit! It’s time to write the vision and make it plain! Get ready to prepare for your destiny like never before. Find you tribe and get ready to dance as you see it all unfold before your eyes. Proclaim what you want, because that is what you’ll get!

Conclusion

As you press forward into a NEW year and a NEW mindset, please feel free to take these tokens with you. I wish you nothing but the best as you move forward.  The best is yet to come. For those of you that receive me and my energy, may GOD grant you 100 fold blessing! To every enemy, you’re in the LORD’s hands

Have a blessed holiday season and remember, this NEW year is FILLED with wonderful opportunities just for you!

Need more encouragement? Check out my biography “Double for My Trouble” or my “Motivational flipbook for Overcomers” when you have a chance!

a. Double for my Trouble! – https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=497T5TS9M2EVA

b. Motivational Flipbook- https://www.amazon.com/Flip-Book-Overcomers-Overcome-Anything/dp/1691270253/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=india+white+flipbook&qid=1574778358&sr=8-1

Remember: You can Overcome….Anything!

India White- Motivational Speaker, Author,  Life Coach, National Ed. Consultant,  Math Expert,  Life Coach, Licensed Minister, Doctoral Student, Rockstar Mommy

By India White June 29, 2025
From Rotten Moments to Sweet Blessings: What Banana Bread and Fermented Foods Teach Us About Life Sometimes life hands us what feels like rotten bananas; situations that seem spoiled, broken, or beyond hope. Maybe it’s a tough season of loss, failure, disappointment, or uncertainty. Yet, just like those overripe bananas transform into delicious banana bread, or milk ferments into nourishing cheese and yogurt, our "rotten" moments have the power to turn into something sweet and life-giving. Why Rottenness Can Be Good In the culinary world, fermentation, a process that uses “rottenness” to transform foods , creates some of the healthiest, most flavorful staples we enjoy: yogurt, cheese, sauerkraut, kimchi, and more. This “rottenness” isn’t waste; it’s a powerful agent of change that unlocks nutrients, improves digestion, and promotes health. Similarly, life’s difficult seasons are not the end. They are part of a process— a fermentation of our character, faith, and grit When we lean into these moments with grit—great resilience in time—we develop strength, wisdom, and sweetness in our souls that wouldn’t be possible otherwise. 7 Ways to Overcome a Negative Mindset and Embrace Grit in Rotten Seasons 1. Acknowledge Your Feelings Without Defeat It’s okay to feel hurt, frustrated, or discouraged. But remember, these feelings don’t define you. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.” 2. Shift Your Perspective to Growth View challenges as opportunities for learning and growth. Romans 5:3-4 reminds us, “Suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Just like looking at a bunch of rotten bananas can seem discouraging until you shift your thinking and see them as a perfect ingredient for banana bread, choose to see your moments of rottenness as a game changer for your destiny! 3. Practice Patience Through the Process Good things take time— like fermentation and baking . Wait on God’s timing. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “There is a time for everything.” Think of how spoiled milk seems disgusting and gut wrenching, until you learn of how wonderful of an ingredient it becomes for homemade cheese! Trust the process, and know that it will all work out in your favor! 4. Cultivate Resilience by Staying Connected Surround yourself with supportive people who encourage you to keep going. Galatians 6:2 teaches, “Carry each other’s burdens.” Sometimes, that person might be the catalyst for a new direction, new energy and exponential success. 5. Focus on Small, Consistent Steps Break down overwhelming problems into manageable pieces. Z echariah 4:10 encourages, “Do not despise these small beginnings. ” Don't lose sight on your progress, your identity or your purpose. 6. Renew Your Mind Daily Replace negative thoughts with truth and hope from Scripture. Philippians 4:8 advises, “Think about whatever is true, noble, right, pure.” Remember that God is not dead, and he sees exactly how his plan in your life will manifest. Leave your worries on the throne and know he will justfiy you. 7. Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection Every small victory is a sign of growth and sweet fruit to come. J ames 1:12 says, “Blessed is the one who perseveres.” Just as you are making banana bread, cheese, yogurt and other wonderful foods, you know that there might be bumps along the way, but keep pressing on! The final product is worth the moments of struggle disappointment and rottenness. You will smile in the end. Conclusion Remember, just as rotten bananas, milk, and vegetables become nourishing foods through a process of transformation, your tough seasons are preparing you for a sweeter, stronger tomorrow . Stay gritty, endure the process, and trust that God is turning your struggles into something beautiful. For more encouragement and practical ways to build grit in your life, visit my website at www.india-white.com . You can also watch my TEDx Talk, The Power of G.R.I.T., for a motivating boost to help you keep pushing through life’s challenges. Keep rising. Keep growing. Your sweetness is coming.
By India White June 27, 2025
🚀 Ready to Get Pumped Up About Life Again? 🌟 Listen to my TEDx talk, and let’s reignite that fire inside you! 🔥 It’s time to get serious and start making those dreams happen! 💪 Don’t let anything hold you back—embrace the grit and determination needed to turn your aspirations into reality. Join me on this journey to unleash your full potential! 🎤✨ #drindiawhite #grit #DreamBig #TEDxTalk https://youtu.be/R9YQOtryL7w?si=vvp_rSqMP3J2VNQ_ (I don’t own music copyright)
By India White June 27, 2025
Join us on the Grit and Equity Talks with Dr. India White, featuring Choosing to See Co-Author and Equity Expert, Dr. Pam Seda! #drindiawhite #pamseda #choosingtosee #equity #icucareframework #nctm #ncsm
By India White June 27, 2025
🌟 Exciting News! 🌟 I’m thrilled to announce that I’ll be co-presenting at CAMT with the amazing Peter Liljedahl from Building Thinking Classrooms! Join us for our session where we’ll dive into empowering students to transition from perseverance to productive struggle. Let’s transform challenges into growth opportunities together! 🚀💡 #CAMT2025 #BuildingThinkingClassrooms #Education #StudentSuccess #drindiawhite #btc #grit #tedx NCTM - National Council of Teachers of Mathematics NCSM: Leadership in Mathematics Education #camt25 (I don’t own music copyright)
By India White June 23, 2025
Dear Educators, Principals, and School Leaders, I’m excited to share that my latest newsletter has just arrived, filled with inspiring updates, resources, and tools to support your teams and students in building a culture of G.R.I.T.—Growth, Resilience, Intentional Self-Efficacy, and Time Management. As you plan your professional development sessions, conferences, or school events for the upcoming year, I’d love to partner with you. Whether it’s a keynote, workshop, or interactive training, I specialize in helping educators and school communities cultivate grit, equity, and empowerment in ways that are practical, engaging, and transformational. If you’re interested in having me speak at your school, district, or conference, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I’d be honored to serve your team. You can also explore my speaking topics and G.R.I.T. resources at: www.india-white.com Let’s connect, collaborate, and inspire greatness—together! Here's the link to my newsletter to share: https://www.canva.com/design/DAF_21LSLwQ/sEqABtI7pY0-Gh5vSzQnLg/edit?utm_content=DAF_21LSLwQ&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link2&utm_source=sharebutton Warmly,
By India White June 23, 2025
Thank You, Nevada Association of School Administrators: Building a Culture of G.R.I.T. Together I want to extend my deepest gratitude to Adam Lane and the Nevada Association of School Administrators (NASA) for the incredible opportunity to speak at your recent conference. It was truly an honor to engage with such passionate, forward-thinking educational leaders who are committed to transforming schools and communities. During our time together, we explored a theme close to my heart: creating a culture of G.R.I.T.—not just in the classroom, but throughout our communities. We unpacked the G.R.I.T. Framework, which focuses on cultivating Growth Mindset, Resilience, Intentional Self-Efficacy, and Time Management in both educators and students. These four pillars are foundational for student success, especially in today’s challenging and ever-evolving educational landscape. We also discussed the critical role educators and school leaders play in modeling and reinforcing these values. From building trusting relationships to ensuring equity and access, educators are the heartbeat of our communities. When we lead with empathy, authenticity, and grit, we empower students to do the same—and we create schools where every learner feels seen, supported, and capable of greatness. To the school leaders, superintendents, and administrators who attended: thank you for your engagement, your insights, and your commitment to building a legacy of perseverance and purpose. I walked away inspired by your stories, your questions, and your unwavering dedication to improving outcomes for all students across Nevada. If you're interested in learning more about the G.R.I.T. Framework or want to access tools like the G.R.I.T. Workbook, I invite you to visit www.india-white.com/what-does-grit-mean-to-you ] And if you missed the session or want to revisit the message, you can also check out my TEDx Talk: The Power of G.R.I.T. Thank you once again, Adam and NASA, for giving me the platform to share this mission and for all you do to champion student success across Nevada and beyond. Let’s continue lifting others as we climb—one gritty step at a time.
By India White June 23, 2025
Embracing Grit and Community in Education: Strategies and Insights for Teachers As I reflect on both shared and individual childhood experiences, I am reminded of the incredible power of grit, the passion and perseverance that fuel our journeys. Yet, one important question remains: What happens when grit alone isn't enough? In our classrooms, many students face systemic barriers that grit alone cannot overcome. That’s why it’s essential for educators to understand that grit must be supported by community, self-efficacy, and equity-driven practices. Understanding Grit in the Classroom Angela Duckworth defines grit as a sustained commitment to long-term goals despite obstacles. But through my own work and the development of the G.R.I.T. Framework, I’ve found that true grit includes more than persistence. It’s also about Growth mindset, Resilience, Intentional self-efficacy, and Time management—all supported by a strong community and a belief in one’s ability to succeed. To learn more about this approach, check out my TEDx Talk: 🎥 [ “The Power of G.R.I.T.” TEDx Talk ] And if you're looking for practical tools to implement in your classroom or school community, you can explore and download the G.R.I.T. Framework and G.R.I.T. Workbook on my website, www.india-white.com 📘 Let’s explore how educators can integrate these principles to help every student not only persist—but thrive. 1. Cultivate a Supportive Community ✅ Build Relationships Create a safe, inclusive environment by getting to know your students. Invite them to share their stories and experiences to strengthen classroom trust. ✅ Use Storytelling as Empowerment Lean into Rudine Sims Bishop’s concept of mirrors, windows, and sliding glass doors—letting students see themselves, others, and opportunities through storytelling. Representation matters. 2. Acknowledge Systemic Barriers ✅ Name the Inequities Be honest about the social, economic, and cultural challenges your students may face. Acknowledgment leads to empowerment and helps normalize discussions around equity. ✅ Share Your Journey Talk about your own privileges and struggles. Vulnerability builds bridges and shows students that growth is possible; even through adversity. 3. Empower Student Leadership ✅ Promote Collective Agency Encourage students to be “ genius influencers ”—train them to see themselves as leaders who support one another and recognize their ability to shape positive change in their communities. ✅ Foster Collaboration Group work and peer learning cultivate community resilience and affirm the idea that we rise together. 4. Embrace Culturally Relevant Teaching ✅ Make Learning Reflective Design curriculum that reflects your students’ lived experiences and cultures . This combats bias and validates identity for all learners (Ladson-Billings, 1994). ✅ Encourage Critical Consciousness Help students think deeply about social justice, equity, and their own role in fostering inclusive environments. 5. Build Strong Mathematical Identities ✅ Promote Belonging in Math Create learning spaces where every student—especially those with disabilities or marginalized identities, which this helps students feel capable, celebrated, and seen . ✅ Use Real-World Connections Ground math in everyday experiences. When students see how math connects to THEIR world, they’re more likely to engage meaningfully. This helps to eliminate any invisible barriers and mistrust in the classroom. 6. Implement Dr. India’s G.R.I.T. Framework :) ✅ Foster Self-Efficacy Help students set achievable goals and celebrate small wins. Confidence grows when students believe their effort matters, and that you believe in them. ✅ Build Support Networks Facilitate relationships with mentors, peers, and community members who can serve as allies in your students’ educational journey. (Don't underestimate the power of community) Learn more and access the full G.R.I.T. Framework and accompanying workbook at: 🔗( https://www.india-white.com/what-does-grit-mean-to-you) Final Thoughts: My Humanity Is Tied Up in Yours; We're in this Together! The journey of teaching is deeply human. Every interaction we have with students—every lesson, every word of encouragement, every challenge we help them overcome—shapes not only their lives, but our own. Let’s recommit ourselves to teaching with grit, grace, and empathy. Now, here are some Teacher Action Tips for your consideration: Make space for storytelling in your classroom. Reflect on and address systemic inequities regularly. Facilitate peer support systems. Use culturally relevant texts and lessons. Set and celebrate realistic goals with students. Show students they matter—every single day. References Duckworth, A. L., Peterson, C., Matthews, M. D., & Kelly, D. R. (2007). Grit: Perseverance and passion for long-term goals. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 92(6), 1087–1101. Sims Bishop, R. (1990). Mirrors, windows, and sliding glass doors. Perspectives, 6(3), 9–11. Ladson-Billings, G. (1994). The Dreamkeepers: Successful Teachers of African American Children. Jossey-Bass. White, I. (n.d.). G.R.I.T. Framework. Retrieved from [www.india-white.com](https://www.india-white.com/what-does-grit-mean-to-you) TEDx Talk: [The Power of G.R.I.T.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9YQOtryL7w&t=1s) Together, we can build resilient, empowered learners—one gritty classroom at a time. 💪📚 #GRITinEducation #EquityInLearning #CulturallyRelevantTeaching #StudentEmpowerment #TeacherLeadership #GrowthMindset #DrIndiaWhite
By India White June 23, 2025
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By India White June 23, 2025
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By India White June 18, 2025
🌟 Just wrapped up an enlightening session on the sense of belonging at the NCTM - NCTE Joint Conference! 🎉 As educators, we explored the crucial distinction between fostering a culture of inclusion versus facing feelings of dejection in our classrooms. It was inspiring to see so many passionate teachers engaged in this important dialogue. Let's continue to strive for acceptance and enrich the learning environment for all students! 🙌 #drindiawhite #inclusion #dejection #acceptance #nctm #ncte #LitMath25 #bwxme #NAACP (I don’t own copyright to music or background)
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