Detoxing from ABUSE

India White • January 18, 2022

Detoxing from ABUSE- Dr. India White

Detoxing from ABUSE- Dr. India White

     Abuse is defined as, “use (something) to bad effect or for a bad purpose; misuse; treat (a person or an animal) with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly. treat (a person or an animal) with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly.”


     So many times, we’ve seen ads on the internet regarding domestic violence. Usually there is a woman that is curled up, who has just taken a blow in the face. These ads typically make people feel bad, and they try to figure out how they can help those in their inner circles who are being mistreated. Children also are told to report any mistreatment to officials at schools, and educators are mandated reporters.


     Everyone knows abuse is just…wrong. However, not all abuse or mistreatment is physical. Much abuse is mental and emotional. This can be in the form of taunting, name calling, bullying, blackmailing, ignoring, racism, unfair wages, stealing from others what is rightfully theirs for someone else’s profit, and the list continues.

     

     We know that we are valuable as individuals. However, to “fit in” to this society, many have been persuaded that they have to suffer at the hands of various abusers. People tolerate those who desire to tear them down and deceive them just to have “acceptance”. Then, they walk away from that transaction, feeling ashamed, humiliated, and tricked out of what was theirs.


     This can happen in business, institutions, church organizations, schools and more. This abuse is no respecter of persons, and it happens more often than not. The sly abuser will usually approach you with a smile. No harm intended they will say. However, they will slander your name, rip you off, steal from you your ideas, and will leave you high and dry. Then, they’ll smile at you and say, “We’ll see you next time!”


     My question is, “When is enough…enough?” When will the abuser see that they are wrong?” The unfortunate answer is, “It will never be enough.” You see, abusers will take from you as long as you allow them to, no matter what their title is. Abusers can be business leaders, pastors, professors, teachers and more. This is why people are shocked when they read about some mishap in the community, and they wonder how “that” person got caught up into it. Abusers are in every area, some are just tougher to spot.


     I can recall several incidences where people will approach me to support, speak, lead…however, they had a hidden agenda. They wanted to profit off of my talent, my story, and I wouldn’t receive a dime. Or they used me because I helped them “appear” to have diversity. Some people just wanted a conversation so they could build their businesses from my ideas. However, I didn’t realize that I was surrounded by abuse, until I pulled back enough to realize that I did not gain, but I was taken advantage of. It just didn’t feel right once I left them. I share this because I want everyone reading this to know that you have probably encountered someone that has been through something similar, and I want to help give strategies to help detox from abuse.


Here are some tips to detox from abuse:

1.    Cut off their energy

      If you have noticed that someone, or a business leader, a church leader continues to use you, manipulate you, take advantage of you, and you always feel burned out, rejected, humiliated after you leave them…cut them off. Your “vibes” are not lying; something is not right, and you deserve to feel love. If you know someone is going through the same situation, help provide them the supports they need so they too can be free from the manipulation, mind control, false love, and overall abuse.


2.    Forgive Them

      At the end of it all, abusers are really going to lose out in the end. They may profit now, but everyone has a day in which they will give an account. Hence, forgive them so you can move forward and heal. Throughout the bible are plethora of examples of people who were abusers. There was the story of Saul and David. Saul was jealous of David, who was younger than him and chosen. Hence, he would smile in David’s face and then try to kill him. He was so miserable with David, that he never supported David in anything he did. His entire time knowing David, he aimed to destroy him. Scripture talks about the thief will come to steal, kill, and to destroy. However, God came so that you would have life and that more abundantly (John 10:10). Hence, choose to forgive, and keep God in the midst of your heart and enjoy your peace.

 

3.    Start Fresh

      It is okay to take the same ideas that others stole from you, and start a new thing! It’s okay to cut off toxic people and groups, and start over! You do not have to explain yourself to anyone. You are accountable to God. Choose to start fresh. You are only one person, and the last thing you need is to be so bent up emotionally from abuse, stress, manipulation, control and false love that you can’t see the good in your life. Cut off the negativity and start fresh.

 

4.    Choose to have JOY

      Scripture speaks about how God will give you joy unspeakable and full of glory. This is great to know because it keeps you focused on where your true joy comes from. It’s not in digital currency, and it’s not it the things of this world. Joy is not in false friendships, and control and manipulated relationships. Joy happens whenever you have a peace in your mind and spirit that you are fulfilling the purpose that God has for you, and that you are being sustained by God. Joy is when you know you have done right by others and can sleep at night. This is something that you and I cannot fabricate. People try to replace joy with events, parties, yoga, incense, and more; however, joy comes from above.


Conclusion

           You were not made to be abused; you were made to be loved and to soar. Hence, take off the cloak of abuse. Forgive those who mishandled you and cut off their negative energy. Choose to start fresh and always keep your joy. The best is yet to come, so detox from their abuse, and continue to soar forward. May God be with you! 


By India White April 28, 2025
Finishing the School Year Strong: 10 Practical Tips for Teachers Using the G.R.I.T. Framework As the school year draws to a close, teachers often find themselves pushed to the limit. With final assessments, grading, and the hustle of end-of-year activities, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. However, finishing strong can create a lasting impact on your students and set a positive tone for the upcoming year. By applying the G.R.I.T. framework—Goals, Resilience, Integrity, and Tenacity—you can not only feel accomplished but also inspire your students to close the year with enthusiasm and purpose. Here are ten practical tips to help you harness G.R.I.T. and finish the school year strong. 1. Set Clear Goals (G) Reflect on the goals you've set for yourself and your students at the start of the year. Take the time to revisit them and set clear, achievable objectives for the final weeks. Encourage your students to set their own goals as well, whether academic, behavioral, or personal. This can help create a sense of purpose and motivation as they strive to meet these targets. 2. Foster a Growth Mindset (R) Resilience is crucial during challenging times, and cultivating a growth mindset can help both you and your students navigate obstacles. Emphasize that mistakes are opportunities for growth. Share stories of perseverance—both yours and those of your students—to inspire resilience and an appreciation for the learning process. 3. Reflect and Adjust (R) Midway through the final marking period, take a moment to reflect on what has worked well this year and what hasn’t. Use student feedback, assessments, and your own observations to identify areas for improvement. Adjust your lesson plans to focus on these areas, ensuring that your teaching remains effective and responsive to your students’ needs. 4. Prioritize Self-Care (I) Integrity in teaching means taking care of yourself so that you can be fully present for your students. Dedicate time to your well-being—whether through exercise, mindfulness, or hobbies that recharge you. When you model self-care, you encourage your students to recognize its importance as well. 5. Maintain Consistent Communication (I) Transparent and consistent communication with students and parents builds trust and accountability. Keep families informed about end-of-year expectations and any changes to the curriculum. This helps manage expectations and fosters a shared commitment to student success as the year comes to an end. 6. Celebrate Achievements (G) As milestones approach, take time to celebrate both individual and collective achievements. Recognizing hard work and progress, whether big or small, reinforces the value of perseverance. Host a celebration event or dedicate a class session to acknowledge accomplishments, creating a positive atmosphere as the year concludes. 7. Be a Role Model for Grit (T) Show your students what it means to embody G.R.I.T. By demonstrating your own tenacity in facing challenges, you provide a powerful example. Share your struggles and successes, and explain how you’ve navigated them. This will not only inspire students but also equip them with the mindset necessary for future challenges. 8. Create Collaborative Learning Opportunities (T) Encourage collaboration among students as they review and finalize their learning. Group projects, peer tutoring, or study teams can create a sense of camaraderie and support. This not only fosters a connected classroom community but also enhances learning through shared experiences. 9. Stay Energized and Engaged (G) To maintain energy during the final stretch, infuse excitement into your lessons. Use hands-on activities, varied instructional methods, and interactive elements to keep students engaged. An energized classroom will foster a positive learning environment that motivates students to finish strong. 10. Reflect and Plan for Next Year (T) As the year ends, take time to reflect on what you’ve learned and how you can apply it to future teaching. Set preliminary goals for the next school year, considering how to integrate the lessons from this year’s experiences. Encouraging students to reflect on their growth can help them carry lessons learned into the next academic year as well. Conclusion Finishing the school year with G.R.I.T. creates a meaningful conclusion for both teachers and students. By focusing on Goals, Resilience, Integrity, and Tenacity, you foster a positive environment that not only enhances academic success but also nurtures the personal growth of everyone involved. Let’s finish this school year strong and set the stage for even greater achievements ahead! Looking for more? Visit www.india-white.com for resources to support you as you help your students finish the school year strong!
By India White April 25, 2025
MCTM 2025 - A Special Message for Minnesota Math Educators Dear Amazing MCTM Participants, First, I want to say how deeply sorry I am that I couldn't join you in person at this year's Minnesota Council of Teachers of Mathematics (MCTM) conference. I was truly looking forward to connecting, learning, and growing alongside each of you. Even though I can't be there, I still wanted to send you a virtual hug and share a little teaser that could spark BIG change in your classrooms: the **G.R.I.T. Framework! What is G.R.I.T.? G.R.I.T. stands for Great Resilience In Time — a transformative framework I created to empower students and educators to break free from the old "sit and get" models of education. It's not just a mindset. It's a movement. Through G.R.I.T., students experience learning without guilt, anxiety, or fear — especially in metacognition. They learn to love the process of thinking, struggling, and succeeding on their own terms. The 4 Pillars of G.R.I.T. ๐ŸŒฑ Growth Mindset Students are taught that mistakes are an essential part of learning. Every misstep is a setup for a comeback. ๐Ÿ’ช Resilience We don't shy away from productive struggle. We celebrate it. Students build emotional strength through reflection, retrying, and perseverance. ๐Ÿง  Self-Efficacy Students believe that their abilities can grow with effort. They recognize their own potential and gain the courage to take academic risks. ๐Ÿ•’ Time Management Students manage their own learning pace, giving themselves the grace to think deeply without unnecessary pressure. How G.R.I.T. Aligns with Peter Liljedahl’s Building Thinking Classrooms Dr. Peter Liljedahl's work encourages us to create environments where students are free to think, explore, and collaborate without rigid restrictions. G.R.I.T. supercharges this process by embedding growth, resilience, self-efficacy, and time management into the very fabric of the classroom. Together, G.R.I.T. + BTC allow educators to: - Break traditional classroom "rules" - Center the learning process, not just the answer - Foster true independence and critical thinking - Remove shame and anxiety from the learning journey Bottom Line: Through G.R.I.T., you can truly set students free to FLOW — courageously, confidently, and creatively. Ready to Get Gritty with Me? I'm so excited to connect with you beyond MCTM! Here's how you can dive deeper into building GRITTY classrooms: ๐Ÿ”— Explore Books, Blogs, GRIT Trainings, and More: Visit: www.india-white.com ๐Ÿ“จ Book Dr. India White for: - Speaking Engagements - G.R.I.T. Academy Trainings - School or District Professional Development - Keynotes - Culturally Relevant Math Workshops Contact : Website: **www.india-white.com Email: india.white.123@gmail.com Stay strong, stay gritty, and keep building thinking classrooms that inspire the next generation! With resilience and gratitude, Dr. India White Founder, G.R.I.T. Academy Author | Speaker | Educational Consultant
By India White April 8, 2025
Forgiveness: Walking in G.R.I.T. and Grace Forgiveness isn't for the faint of heart. It takes G.R.I.T.—Growth Mindset, Resilience, Self-Efficacy, and Time Management—to truly walk in forgiveness, especially when you've been wronged, mistreated, or misunderstood. But there's no greater example of gritty forgiveness than Jesus Himself. As He hung on the cross—suffering, bleeding, and abandoned—He didn’t curse His enemies. He didn’t demand justice in that moment. Instead, He looked toward heaven and said: “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34). Let that sink in. The very people who had betrayed, mocked, beaten, and crucified Him were the ones He forgave. And He did it in real time, while the pain was still fresh. That’s Great Resilience In Time. And as followers of Christ, we’re called to do the same. We’re called to forgive those who have: • Abused us—physically, emotionally, or spiritually • Slandered us behind our backs • Taken advantage of our kindness • Lied to us, hurt us, or wronged us in ways words can’t capture Forgiveness doesn’t mean the pain was okay. It doesn’t mean you return to harmful situations. But it does mean we release people into God’s hands. We stop carrying the weight of bitterness. And we trust that nobody gets by—God is just, but He is also merciful. “I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.” — Luke 5:32 God operates in mercy—not because people always deserve it, but because His heart is for restoration. And if we want God to operate in mercy toward us, we must be willing to pray that same mercy over those who have hurt us. Hence, I want to share with you 5 Tips for Operating in Forgiveness Through G.R.I.T. and Grace: 1. Growth Mindset: Choose to Learn, Not Linger Instead of replaying the pain, ask God what He wants to teach you through it. Every hurt can become holy ground if we allow it to transform us instead of trap us. Forgiveness is a chance to grow. Even when you find yourself lingering in the memories and wondering "What if?", choose to use the moments of hurt as an opportunity to heal and evolve into a greater version of you. 2. Resilience: Bounce Back with God’s Strength Resilience doesn’t mean you don’t feel the pain—it means you refuse to let it define you. Forgiveness builds spiritual stamina. Each time you choose grace, you build strength in your spirit. The enemy wanted that trial, setback, dissapointment to cause you to give up on God and yourself. However, you must believe that no weapon formed against you shall propser. Never allow Satan to take away your song or your purpose, no matter the weapon or vessel he chooses to attack you through. 3. Self-Efficacy: Believe You Can Forgive with God’s Help Forgiveness may feel impossible—but with God, you can do all things. Self-efficacy is about believing in your ability to move forward. Speak life over yourself: "With God’s help, I can forgive." This is not always an easy process but you can do it! Choose to speak positively about your situation. Tell God that you forgive them and take moments to think about what Jesus must have felt at the cross as he died for you. Sometimes, we are made to emulate the light of Christ so that others will have HOPE. That means we must be willing to be curicifed at thier hands for the Glory of God. However, be encouraged, for the Lord will restore you. 4. Time Management: Don’t Waste Time on Bitterness Bitterness drains energy and time. Let forgiveness help you refocus your time and emotional energy toward purpose, healing, and joy. Steward your time wisely—it’s too precious to spend in bondage. Take time for self-care. Cry it out, seek therapy, have an outlet that will help you develop and heal and mature in a healthy fashion. Understand that all of us fall short; people will most likely dissapoint you, so flow in grace. 5. Great Resilience In Time: Forgive Even When It Still Hurts Forgiveness is often a process, not a one-time event. It requires Great Resilience In Time —the ability to keep choosing grace, even when the pain is fresh. Jesus forgave while He was still on the cross. We, too, can learn to forgive even while healing. Through your forgiveness you'll find revelation that will bring your closer to your heavenly Father. Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give—to others, yes, but also to yourself. It frees your heart. It releases your soul. It makes space for God to heal what others tried to break. Jesus didn’t wait for an apology. He forgave in real time—with G.R.I.T. and grace. So today, let’s strive to do the same. Let’s live with: • A growth mindset that says, “God can use even this.” • Resilience that says, “I will not be broken.” • Self-efficacy that says, “I can do this with God.” • Time management that says, “I will not waste one more second holding a grudge.” Let’s walk in Great Resilience In Time and extend the same mercy we so desperately need. Because forgiveness isn’t weakness. It’s worship. So, wipe you tears, forgive, reset, start over, and thrive through G.R.I.T. and Grace. Love, India Want more? Visit www.india-white.com to schedule a meeting or book me for an event. Want a copy of the Grit Workbook for Clergy (Pastors) Click here!
By India White April 3, 2025
### April Newsletter: A Month of Grit and Growth April is here, and it’s shaping up to be an exciting month filled with powerful opportunities to build grit, inspire educators, and impact students. From conferences to new resources, I’m thrilled to share what’s happening this month and how you can get involved. Speaking at MCTM’s Annual Math Conference in Minnesota I’m honored to present at the Minnesota Council of Teachers of Mathematics Annual Conference this month, where I’ll be diving into how to create a Gritty Thinking Classroom. In this session, we’ll explore how the G.R.I.T. framework aligns with Peter Liljedahl’s Building Thinking Classrooms, helping educators develop a culture of perseverance, resilience, and self-efficacy in their math students. If you’re attending, I’d love to connect and discuss ways to empower students through productive struggle. G.R.I.T. Workbooks and Resources The G.R.I.T. Workbook series continues to grow, providing teachers, students, and parents with practical tools to develop growth mindset, resilience, and time management. Whether you’re looking to strengthen your own grit or help students push through challenges, these workbooks offer actionable strategies to build confidence and perseverance. G.R.I.T. Online Courses and Masterclass For those looking to take a deeper dive into grit, we’re rolling out G.R.I.T. online courses and mini-workshops designed to help educators and leaders implement grit-based strategies in their schools and classrooms. Stay tuned for our Masterclass, which will provide an interactive learning experience on how to cultivate grit in both personal and professional settings. G.R.I.T. Podcast: Conversations That Inspire The G.R.I.T. Podcast continues to feature insightful conversations with educators, leaders, and changemakers who are passionate about building perseverance and resilience. Each episode offers motivation and strategies to help you stay committed to your goals and push through challenges. Be sure to tune in for inspiring discussions that fuel personal and academic growth. Stay Connected If you’re looking for more ways to engage with the G.R.I.T. movement, be sure to check out: - www.india-white.com – Explore my work, speaking engagements, and resources - www.gritacademy.us – Learn about G.R.I.T. Academy, where we help students and educators develop the skills they need to thrive This month is all about embracing grit, growth, and resilience. Whether through conferences, podcasts, or online learning, I’m excited to continue this journey with you. Let’s keep pushing forward and building a culture of perseverance together. Stay gritty and keep striving for greatness!
By India White April 3, 2025
Excited to Speak at MCTM’s Annual Math Conference: Building a Gritty Thinking Classroom! I can’t wait to present at MCTM’s Annual Math Conference this April in Minnesota. This opportunity is truly special because I’ll be diving into two of my passions—grit and Building Thinking Classrooms—to help educators create Gritty Thinking Classrooms that foster resilience, problem-solving, and perseverance in students. Why Grit Matters in the Math Classroom Math is not just about numbers and equations; it’s about persistence, self-efficacy, and growth mindset. So many students struggle with productive struggle, but when we intentionally build grit, they learn how to push through challenges rather than give up. By implementing Dr. India White’s G.R.I.T. framework, we help students: - Develop a growth mindset - Build resilience in problem-solving - Strengthen self-efficacy - Improve time management and perseverance Connecting Grit with Building Thinking Classrooms Peter Liljedahl’s Building Thinking Classrooms has transformed the way we engage students in math learning. When we merge BTC structures with grit, we create an environment where students: - Tackle challenging problems head-on - Collaborate with peers to build understanding - Learn to embrace struggle as part of growth - Develop confidence in their ability to succeed In my session, we’ll explore how BTC’s 14 elements align with grit and how teachers can create a culture of perseverance in their classrooms. See You in Minnesota! If you’re attending MCTM’s Annual Math Conference, I’d love to connect. Let’s talk about how to empower students to think, struggle, and grow. Together, we can build Gritty Thinking Classrooms that transform how students learn and engage with mathematics. Let’s get gritty! See you soon in Minnesota!
By India White March 25, 2025
๐ŸŒŸ Excited to share my VCTM recap video! ๐ŸŽฅ Join me as I engage with teachers during my keynote, discussing strategies to best support our 8th grade math students. Together, we can make a difference! ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ“š Check it out and let’s keep the conversation going! #drindiawhite #nctm #ncsm #vctm #vermont #nabse #naacp #education #doe
By India White March 25, 2025
Reflection on The Power of Grit Keynote to Vermont Teachers Speaking to the dedicated educators of Vermont about the Power of Grit was an inspiring and reaffirming experience. As I shared the pillars of grit—Growth Mindset, Resilience, Time Management, and Self-Efficacy—it was evident that these concepts resonated deeply with the teachers in the room. Their commitment to fostering perseverance and confidence in their students was both heartening and energizing. Throughout the keynote, I emphasized the transformative role of a growth mindset—how students who embrace challenges and see effort as a path to mastery are more likely to persist through difficulties. I could see educators nodding in agreement as they reflected on their own students' struggles and triumphs. Encouraging students to reframe failure as a learning opportunity is a crucial shift that builds not just better mathematicians, writers, and thinkers but also more resilient individuals. Resilience was another cornerstone of the discussion. I shared stories and strategies to help students push past obstacles and develop the endurance needed to navigate academic and personal challenges. The engagement in the room reaffirmed that teachers, too, are models of resilience, especially in today’s educational climate. One of the most practical elements of the keynote focused on time management—helping students (and educators) break down overwhelming tasks, set realistic goals, and prioritize effectively. The response to this section showed that time management remains a crucial skill, not only for students learning to structure their studies but also for teachers juggling multiple responsibilities. Finally, we explored the power of self-efficacy, that deep-seated belief that one’s efforts lead to success. We discussed ways to cultivate this mindset in students through intentional feedback, scaffolding, and celebrating small wins. Seeing the teachers reflect on how they could implement these strategies in their classrooms was incredibly rewarding. This keynote reaffirmed my belief that grit is not just a personal trait—it’s a culture that educators can foster in their classrooms, schools, and communities. Vermont’s educators left the session with new insights, actionable strategies, and a renewed commitment to equipping students with the perseverance and confidence needed for success. I am grateful for the opportunity to share this message, and I look forward to seeing the impact of their work in cultivating grit across the state. Thanks Vermont Rockstars. Stay gritty!
By India White March 25, 2025
โœจ I had a phenomenal time speaking for the VCTM Rockstars in Vermont! We dove into how to reach all learners and stay motivated through grit. ๐Ÿ’ช I can't wait to see the results from the grit assessment and framework! Stay gritty, y’all! ๐ŸŒŸ #drindiawhite #vctm #vermont #grit #educators #math
By India White March 25, 2025
๐ŸŒจ๏ธ Greetings from Vermont! Loving the beautiful snow! โ„๏ธ Can’t wait to get gritty with all you rockstars! Let’s do this! ๐Ÿ’ชโœจ #drindiawhite #grit #vermont #math #teachers #snow #nctm #ncsm #bwxme #nabse
By India White March 18, 2025
๐ŸŒŸ Super excited to announce that I’ll be the keynote speaker at the VCTM Annual Conference in beautiful Vermont! ๐ŸŽ‰ Huge thanks to the amazing VCTM rockstars for this incredible opportunity! Let’s dive into the power of grit together! ๐Ÿ’ชโœจ I can’t wait to share insights and connect with fellow educators, students, and math enthusiasts. Join us by registering below: https://vctm.wildapricot.org/event-5950535 Let’s make this an unforgettable experience! #drindiawhite #grit #tedx #vctm #teachers #students #math (I don’t own music copyright)
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